Hi Heal2014,
People don’t like it when their assumptions are blown out of the water. She assumed you were X and yet you are doing Y. You also are invading on her turf. (SHE’S the grad student!) Maybe she hears about it on and on from her family how great you are. Maybe she’s always felt close to your husband to the point of jealousy. Maybe she’s like this with everyone!
But clearly this is “her” problem and not “yours”, you know?
Look, you will either get into graduate school or you won’t. If you do, she will simmer in jealousy, but you will literally be too busy to care about her comments, much less have time to socialize. The top schools are the top for a reason!
Or, you won’t get in and she will feel smug. Then you will have a choice on how to respond or inwardly deal with her.
And just remember, if you announce a pregnancy around her, then the fun really begins. 🙂
But seriously, there is a saying “Keep your goals away from the trolls”. Talk about your plans after they happen.
Inky
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