Hi inneedoffaith,

Can I just be the first to say that your wife is crazy.

I can understand the new wife wanting her own baby. I really do. But NO. SHE has to stay home with it! At least until your girls are older and have the means to visit you!

Also, she knew going in that you have two children. Her saying “Me or Them” backfired. And I’m glad it did. Who does she think she is? (Oh, yes, the wife. Well, maybe she shouldn’t be!) Usually this ultimatum is unsaid and the guy unwittingly chooses the new family. But good for making the RIGHT decision!!

Basically she should know (she does by now!) that the children come first. Maybe in ten years or so she can conceivably come first.

This is why people really shouldn’t date while they have kids, much less get married IMO. Who needs that awful brew?

You made the Right Decision,

Inky