Hi Steve, thanks for your advice. First of all let me tell you – you are one well-balanced guy! You sound like such a cool person with a good heart! I think you have you’re own personal “We Love Steve1” following from all us gals with bf questions 🙂

Well – idk. That’s the point. That he “seems” to be very bold when we are together (you should hear some of the stuff this guy tells me…super sweet..although some of my gfs think its creepy cause its too much too soon…and maybe they are right.), but then we we are apart he is like fallen off the planet (just one text a day – if that…and maybe a phone call every 3-4 days. And given, we do see each other ever week.

I want to think that its because he doesn’t want to “be in my face” and keep the mystery going – but I have to tell you … it doesn’t feel that way. Something is awry w this fella. And its becoming clearer and clearer each day.

There are things I know about his past that make me question his emotional stability and ability to feel love a little bit…and one of the main reasons I hesitated at first going out with him. But he seemed to be past these things and has certainly done a lot of work that I command him for- and I am open minded about people going through life – lord knows I’ve had my share of struggles . We have all fought something at some point or another.

I am a pretty emotionally stable and confident chick. So I don’t question so much… “does he like me? and does he want to be w me.” I know he does – I just question if this is the man that I will be happy with.

I’ve decided to just let it run for a couple of more days – but it feels kind of nearing the end for me.

And now for the original question: Do I tell him what I need? This one is a toughie. For me, if you have to ask, you already have you’re answer – but I will be open minded and tell myself that maybe I am wrong here – I will mostly likely ask…and see how the convo goes…and at that point..I will make my decision.

A wise woman once told me: You have to like them just exactly as they are…not what they have the potential of becoming.

Life is such a mystery…So glad to be part of it all.

Steve1 for president :)!