No one can plot the course for you, but i will try to offer some perspective from a distance. It seems to be that he is a good guy and does care for you. Likes being with you. Is good to you otherwise. He doesn’t want to hurt you, but he is not head over heels in love with you. Is he waiting for something that really knocks him over but playing it safe with you? Sometimes a relationship like this can turn into more when he either appreciates you or feels he has tried everything else out there. But do YOU want to be second best? What are you passing up in the meantime? Tick Tock, your life is passing by. If you are like me, you commit emotionally and find it hard to look at others. He can play the field more readily by virtue of being male. Just works that way.

Cautionary tale: I had a friend who lived with a guy for several years. She was all in. He would not commit to marriage. Eventually they had a direct conversation. She asked him if he wanted to get married. His response: “Yes, but not to you.” Boom. I suggest asking the hard questions before you spend your precious years being there for someone who isn’t really there for you in return. None of us can get the time back that we spend in dead-end relationships. (or bad marriages).

Ultimately, I think that if you want more, you have to push yourself to go out and get it elsewhere! It’s your life to live. Don’t waste it waiting.