Hi Kate,

I know you are getting a lot of advice already, and I gave some myself, but just realize that this will take the time you need it to take to feel good about things again. I felt so many of the things you are feeling right now. I felt out of place at family gatherings. I looked at couples in relationships and felt envy and sadness. After 4 months, I finally packed up all the stuff my ex left here and dropped it off at her dad’s place. I was holding onto someone who didn’t care enough about what we had and I wasted my time mourning that.

It is hard to let go of someone who you spent so much time building a life with, I was with my ex a total of 19 years, but to hell with them. What you were building with this man didn’t matter enough to him. Like my ex, he threw it away for a cheap affair. I would never want that person back again. You are better off now and in time, you will find a decent man who appreciates what you have to offer.