I really get it too – this situation was so similar to my own.

I know it’s so hard and you think that you’ve already put in 5 years and endured so much long distance that there should be some payoff. That the plans you made and talked about the whole time should’ve meant something to him because they were literally what you had based everything on! That you’re afraid you won’t find anyone else and that if you really were so great, he would want to be with you.

But here’s the thing – being by yourself, being alone is BETTER than staying and continuing to ben over backward to make a relationship filled with lies, hurt, and betrayal work. You can and will be happier alone than you ever will be with him, constantly doubting his behavior and remembering all the hurt that he put you through. That will be absolutely toxic for you! It was absolutely NOT you, this guy has serious problems, insecurities, pathological lying behavior, and probably just a touch of sociopathy.

Maybe one day he will wisen up and realize that he let the best person he can ever hope to have go through his fingertips. Maybe he’ll be full of regret and want to be a better man. Either way though, it doesn’t matter. Let’s say he never regrets his behavior and just moves on to some other girl – well then, be thankful that he’s someone else’s problem now! Some other girl will be taken in and hurt by his deceit, lies, feeling-less behavior, and inability to form real relationships. At least she isn’t you – you’re so lucky to have gotten out now!