I think its best you allow others to talk about whats bothering them instead of advising them all over – i realize the idea of giving advice to people is a form of caring but would you like it if something bad happened to you and someone kept giving you suggestions when you were healing – sometimes a simple, are you ok? lets talk when you’re ready is more than enough. In this case, you could have waited for your room-mate to approach you instead when she was emotionally ready and tried to support her in indirect ways, maybe do something nice for her, a very simple gesture or just hang out with her – sometimes talking isnt what people need, they need time and some laughter to be ready to gain perspective and acceptance of what happened.