@lapedrazza:
I think that its a great idea NOT to be friends with him. In order to heal you need to let go and not have any reminders of him because it will only bring you more pain. I don’t speak to the guy who broke my heart. I got rid of everything that reminds me of him because it helps me heal. I can say that I am in a better place (5 months since the break-up after being together for 4 years). I still have a lot of let going to do but I can safely say that I am slowly becoming me again. I understand your pain wholeheartedly. He doesn’t deserve you and you will be happy again. Time will heal everything.