Hi kim53,

No one is putting a gun to your head and demanding you get a divorce. This marriage arrangement seems to be working for you. But you simply must ferret out the terrifying fear. Is it money? Status? There’s no one else? You genuinely like/love your husband? I say if you don’t have a job, get one. If you have few friends, find some. If you love the routine of it all, do other things.

This guy you’re in love with that you see once a year? My green card senses are tingling. I would sooner get citizenship to his country. Honestly. I’ve seen this happen. Don’t be like that guy who I’ve seen this happen to. I’d rather you live in your current comfortable life/routine.

Think Hard,

Inky