Hi Daydreamwr,

I agree with Maria. If you are the anxious type, it might be best to organise something active like a walk in the park, bike riding, bowling or something similar. This will help you get outside of your head (which is where most anxieties comes from) and just be in the moment.

If you are not sure about how you feel about this guy or what you want out of this, it may be best to avoid drinking around him the next time you meet. The reason is that alcohol and sex have a way of creating a false sense of intimacy and cloud your judgement about the person you are with. Having done that a few times myself, it’s got a way of putting me in relationships that I should never have agreed to in the first place.