Hi Bpkhss,

I’m of Arab heritage as well, Muslim too, and even though I don’t practice my religion or wear a headscarf and was born in America, dating for me has certainly had its challenges, especially since 9/11. I’ve been in relationships with mostly American men, and in the end, it has always come down to culture. For whatever reason. And I don’t even speak Arabic! But I’m proud of who I am and where I come from. And I think that is what it is about.

My advice to you is to see beyond your feelings (I know that’s hard) and into who this person is as a human being. He isn’t open. Instead of running away, he could have had a more intelligent response of being intrigued and interested. Aren’t two cultures better than one? And honestly, can you picture taking a guy like that to the Middle East? Someone who wouldn’t appreciate it? I think he did you a favor being honest. Take it.

I know it just feels hopeless right now though, like you’ll never find love. But you will. Your heart is now open to it, you know? And just think–this guy wasn’t right, so you’re that much closer to finding it.

Good luck 🙂

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