@CherryBlossomGirl said:
Wanting to make changes in your life is frightening. It’s much easier said than done. It’s like I know that I want a change, but I don’t know what that change is or where to begin. Like, I know what I don’t want in life, but at the same time I don’t know what I want. And I also think part of my problem is that I want things to go perfectly every time. And I guess this fear of failure is just stopping me from even trying anything. It’s just that my life right now is sort of monotonous. And I don’t necessarily want a life that’s like an action movie, but I think I need a change of scenery or something.
And it’s not just the fact that I live in a bit of a dull town, it’s also that I feel so inadequate compared to everyone else around. Even at my job, I just feel so small and I’m 24. I just feel like I need to be on my own for a while. I guess it’s just that I know that I can’t make a change unless I get out of my comfort zone, and I HATE my comfort zone, and I’m scared, but I’m just itching to leave.

Hi Jerris,

I feel exactly like you right now. Im going to be 25 next week and am not where i want to be. The trouble is making the changes to get where i want to be is bloody terrifying!! I also want things to go perfectly first time so making any decision is scary in case of ‘what if’. I still live at home with my parents and really want to move out and get my life started but at the same time am too scared to leave home. And dont worry, i bet my job is even more inadequate than yours and my only other option atm is to work in a coffee shop!!

My advice would be to do what your heart and gut tells you. These are often more right than the head is. Making ANY decision, ANY change at the moment is good. Even saying ‘I will move and teach abroad by the end of 2015’. You have made that decision and it gives you something to aim for.

For me, I might be going back to my old job at a coffee shop to work up to manager and im worried about what people will think of me but the way im trying to see it that this is my life, my decision and no-one elses. You are the one that has to live your with choices, not your mother. And if you go and it doesnt work out and you have to come home, thats fine. In fact, thats better than doing what your mother wants you to do, and in 20 years when you have a mortgage and kids to pay for, looking back and kicking yourself for not going.

Good luck!