Hello bpkhss,

I, too, am 38 years old and I’ve just signed the divorce paper. I’m with a 2 year old and whilst many (including my mother and some friends) even though may not say it outright, I know they think I’m struggling and am in the deep end.

Long story short, I lost it all in one day (ex)husband of 13 years told me he just doesn’t love me anymore. And boy do I feel like I’m dying. But I try to pull through everyday with positiveness and not dwell on unhappiness. I do not have many friends but think one or two I can say they are friends. They have their life which seem so fulfilled whereas I’m trying to start all over again. I think it’s going to be difficult for me to trust a man again but then again, I’m trying to let things be and I go with the flow. So if you’re just coming out of a relationship, you’re not alone. I, too, am with you and I’ve now got to struggle with the failure of a marriage (proven that it didn’t work) and living in a place I hadn’t called home for almost 20 years.

But I hope you’ll be able to detect the hope in me, trying to stay focus and be positive. Life can be a bitch, but let’s try to make the best out of it!