Hi, Soulstar,

I don’t want to try to give advice about a situation I’ve never been in, but I do want to send some support and love your way. I don’t know your family that well, so I’m not sure if what I would do would be helpful in your situation. In my family, avoiding discussions (ANY discussions, including some that SHOULD be avoided) is not really our thing, but blunt confrontation doesn’t work for everyone. You could write them a letter, or speak them individually. You have very clear feelings and needs, and the evidence for your concerns is obvious.

However you decide to handle it, (I hope someone with more experience than me can offer you better advice,) you definitely deserve to have a family that respects and appreciates you and I hope they come to their senses. And even though their behavior is their responsibility and doesn’t reflect on you, that doesn’t make it less hurtful, so please take care of yourself as well.

All the best to you.