Thank you for taking the time to reply to this Inky. I agree with you in that her problem may not even be personal, rather that I have taken her brother away. I suppose that I am conflicted in that I don’t want her to think I am a pushover and that I accept the fact that she has said horrible things about me, as I do not accept this treatment. I believe in sorting things directly with the person and its frustrating for me that she is not allowing that to happen. I am so unused to having bad feeling like this hang over me. Your kind advice has helped me see it all from a different point of view. I need not to worry so much!