Dear C,

What I am about to propose my seem daunting. But in order to truly raise yourself above the situation you wrote about – or any situation, for that matter, you have to use a mode of going about it that is not in the same energy and mindset as before. If you sit there and think of all the ways you were abused and rerun episodes in your mind, you are keeping yourself within the same energy field as before and not able to move on. So what I am going to propose for you is to pray and forgive. True forgiveness is not about saying the other person is ok. Quite the contrary, they could be in the wrong forever. True forgiveness is saying you choose to not carry their toxicity within yourself any longer. Therefore, you release them. You do not give their actions or their words another minute within your existence. So any time a thought comes to your mind, you work hard on letting that thought go. It’s a training of the mind. This person had occupied a lot of your energy and it’s best they don’t anymore. And when it comes to prayer, pray for them each day for 30 days. Pray for them to find the peace within to not harm people in this world. Because really, how we act on the outside is just a reflection of how we feel on the inside. And this person must have really small and really bad deep within to have lashed out this way. At first, you will feel very emotional when you pray for their well being. You may cry. You may feel angry. But stick with it. Somewhere along the way of those 30 days of prayer, you will softer. Something within you will shift. And this “softness” is not to be confused with weakness. You are merely moving on from the tangled web of emotions around this person. Like I mentioned in the beginning of the reply, you are rising above this person and situation.

And like I said, it takes something completely different than the negativity you’ve been feeling to reverse this cycle – and to even reverse putting yourself in another similar situation in the future. The only way you can reverse the negativity is to fuel YOURSELF with positivity. At this point, (and always) it is about claiming your own power back.

I wish you much strength and peace 🙂

Michelle