Please try to look ahead. These problems may very well be harbingers of things you will be dealing with in the future. My very strongest and most potent lesson in relationships is this: Even if you think you know that you cannot change a person, we often go into a relationship secretly thinking we can, or that if we just love enough, the problems will dissolve. Ultimately, it’s just not true. We cannot change or fix anyone except ourselves. It sounds like just a set of words, but please know that it’s an absolute truth. If your personalities are not resonating and you don’t really feel very supported, or you are already doubting your feelings, trust that the issues will blossom in the future and it won’t be pleasant. Are you really willing to stick with this person as he goes through his growth process? And do you think he will do the same? It’s hard to see the future, but when there are this many signs only three years down the road, it seems like a great time to step back and let some time pass before you make any big commitments. Just a thought – my heart goes out to you with hopes for a truly compatible relationship in your future.