Thanks for your response!

By confused– he mentioned this a few times– he meant he didn’t know if he was doing the right thing with his life, if he was fulfilling his potential. He was afraid that when we were together he didn’t have to think about his struggles and grief and he was worried that it could mean we were together for the wrong reasons– for his security and avoiding a time of growth and struggle. The last thing he wanted was to end up married to me– or anyone– and realize that he did so for the wrong reasons and suffer through divorce again. I believe there was more to it than that just comfort and security for both of us and that something deep had developed, and that is why he is worried about losing me. Only time will tell.