Dear Laure:
A person’s FIRST relationship is with one’s parent/s. This first relationship, if less than “good enough” creates much of the problems a person has as an adult, problems with one own’s thinking and in relationships with others, especially romantic relationships- this is the relevance. You wrote in your response to my comment that you fought hard to earn their love. That means you didn’t have their unconditional love- loving you just the way you are, no matter what. That means you weren’t SAFE in their love. Their love was conditional: IF you live the way they think you should live, then they will love you. Isn’t it so?

If you examine this point, the connection between what you learned about who you are and about love (or the lack of) from your first relationship AND the present difficulties???

Take Care:
anita