Remember that it is faulty thinking to place your own self worth into another’s hands. In this life, no matter who you are or what you do, some people like you and others will not. I think everyone has fallen for someone who does not return their affections, welcome to the human race! That rite of passage is not fun, but it’s something almost everyone can relate to.

For a lot of people, when they know someone has a crush on them, it pushes them away. I’m not recommending you play manipulative games, but often, with trying to attract a gf/bf, they want the thrill of the chase. I suggest you make yourself very busy in pursuing your own self growth through making yourself very busy pursuing your own passions and working on yourself. If you have feelings of low self worth, sit down and think about what it would take to win yourself over. . . what does a worthy person look like? If you value kindness and service, think about a way you can volunteer for a worthy cause you can help. If you value culture and intellect, take a workshop or class to learn about art history or literature. The more you work on yourself and improve yourself, the more confidence you will build and confidence is FAR MORE ATTRACTIVE to a bf/gf than good looks. No one healthy wants to rescue someone or to be someone’s “other half.” Once you get to a place where you feel good about who you are without a boyfriend, you will be attracting a lot more people in your life who will want to know you and/or date you. It helps to be busy and to have a “life” apart from a dating life. If you’re busy doing your own thing, and someone has to work to build a place in your life, they will value you more and you will have a lot more to bring to the table as a self-confident woman who is fully engaged with the world around her.

If you keep yourself busy working on becoming the “you” you want to grow into, you’ll be way too busy to be jealous about your friend dating this guy. If you can find it in yourself, try to let this guy go and wish him happiness in wherever he chooses to go. If you can be detached and wish him the best while you pour yourself into things that bring your life meaning, you will soon be free of this guy and open yourself up to a whole new world of opportunity personally and socially.