Dear rodrigo:
About mindfulness: it is a skill. Something you learn and then practice. It will help you be okay with uncomfortable feelings instead of suppressing and masking your feelings, what you wrote that you do. Maybe some day soon you will learn it. Maybe somebody can help you learn it (a therapist with experience in mindfulness?)

You wrote that a part of you is lost, this is how you feel some days. When i think about what that part is I think it has to be that love-and-be-loved part, the part that needs to CONNECT to another, to be together with another. This is a strong part in people, ingrained in our genes, in our biology. You had it and now it is gone. Ah, the misery. Such misery that you wonder what is the point of living. I agree- there is no point in living without connecting with others, without the together, without… to love and be loved in return. That is the bad news for you, for now- at least in those days that you feel the lack of love.

The good news… the good news is that she does not own love. You can love another woman. Maybe not now. Maybe not very, very soon. But you can love another woman. It is very likely to happen. People before you had their hearts broken and they loved AGAIN. And they were happy again. Sometimes even happier. Can you imagine you being happier with a future woman than you were with her?

I am not making this up just to make you feel better. I am stating a fact that applied to millions and applies to millions as I am typing this. It is reality. Can you argue with reality? And why would you think that YOU are an exception to this widespead reality?

So when you feel horrible, is it helpful to know that you are likely to love again? That there will be another woman for you, most likely?

You wrote: “and you would give it (your heart) for them without thinking even if they aren’t in your life anymore? well that’s how I feel, and hve felt that way since the beginning of the relationship.” Do you mean that you were willing to give your heart to her even if she would not be in your life? I don’t think i understand. Maybe you can explain this to me?

Connect- connect here with me on this limited mode of communication. Keep connecting. Keep connecting-

Take care:
anita