Dear Taymor:
It seems to me that he may have not wanted to disappoint not only you in the last six months but also his mother, sister, family. You wrote: “Our friends and family have idolized our love.” This idolizing may have created pressure in him, feeling he “had to” live up to the idolized IMAGE others had. That may have placed a gap, a widening gap, between a perfect image of the relationship that others had and the imperfect reality of it, widened those normal imperfections in his mind.

Your post reads mature to me, knowing your breakup is so fresh.

You are disappointed in him for not telling you that he wanted out, for leaving you to connet the dots. And you realize that you are both young (and are learning). I hope that with your input he learns something from this long term relationship’s ending, and that you do too… What do you think you can learn further?

take care:
anita