Anita,

I haven’t been seeing my therapist for too long – only since the very first week or two of the break up. So she only knows me within the context of this situation and at my most vulnerable state. I’ve moved around a lot so I haven’t been able to keep a steady therapist. I was never too sure about her since day 1 but she does help and I do like her. I’ve been seeing her for about 3 months. Today I found myself looking into maybe some therapists that specialize in grief or abuse – it might be closer to what I need.

She is basically trying to get me to a place where I feel neutral about him. She doesn’t want me to think of him at all and she doesn’t want me to try and “figure him out”. She wants me to close him out of my life completely and not even be curious. But most importantly, she’s adamant about focusing on me and making sure that I’m focusing on me.