Hi Charlotte,

When you see these patterns in relationships, it is likely because you are seeking something from the other person. Perhaps you feel better about yourself when someone wants to be with you, perhaps you don’t think you have the strength to make it on your own.

Often, in relationships, we seek to find someone who “completes” us. The problem is that we don’t realize we are complete already! We look for someone to give us the sense of value, attention, and love that we can’t give ourselves.

Look inwardly, and you may find the answers that will help you break the pattern.

Bethany Rosselit
http://onlinetherapyandcoaching.org