I’ve spoken to him after our last big blowout (and she doesn’t know), where I had one foot out the door and she finally realized their relationship hurts me. I have I do not know of any other contact but over the past year I feel conditioned that it is coming. Like I said, she has issues of her own. If I had to take a stab at it, she is depressed. But she refuses to try to get any help for her or us. We’ve done the love languages and frankly things were worse when I helped more around the house, was extra nice to her etc. I think I was too available. She had best of both worlds and I think loved it.

Don’t get me wrong, I had my share of wrongs during this whole situation… being insecure, passive/aggressive, paranoid, etc. Our actions took a large toll on us. I do want to give her/us one more chance. I just don’t know if I can work with someone who ignores problems, won’t try to help, and just in general unloads about all the things wrong in her life everyday. It is a tough way to live…