Hi Penguin,

I’m going to piggy-back off of what Anita said. It does sound like you are experiencing others’ emotions. That is the double-edged sword of empathy. It takes some time to recognize it.

It also seems like you are trying to control things that you can not control, such as your boyfriend’s weight. Trying to control things is a sign that your mind feels unsafe. You are in a state of fight-or-flight. Can you think of any reasons that you might be feeling this way? You will want to look deeply at yourself, and practice calming strategies to help yourself cope.

Bethany
http://onlinetherapyandcoaching.org