Thank you Matt, that was really insightful! If I’m understanding correctly you’re saying he felt more attracted to me after getting it off his chest because his heartfelt connection with me grew, thus his overall attraction for me grew. You’re also saying he mistook the effects of some other stressful factors as a lack of sexual attraction towards me. So a viable solution is working through this stressful goop by making more heartfelt talks/time together. I can honestly say this is a fresh perspective for me and I will share it with him. I hope you are right as that lightens my heart considerably. As for asking each other about fantasies we do communicate those things, but it never hurts to ask again. I think it’s safe to say we’re open about everything, which is part of the reason this was so hard for me. Thank you for your ideas, they are much appreciated Matt!