Hi sandy,
I think you’re being too hard on yourself. When you’re in a new relationship or dating, everyone puts their best foot forward. Even “10s”. And even if you’re a “5” everyone can polish up for a first date to seem like an “8” to a “10”. It’s what we do!
1. For a date coming over to your house, OF COURSE you’ll clean up! It’s what we do when company’s coming over anyway. It gives us a chance to clean!
2. Don’t talk about your debt or leave “WARNING: Third Notice!” envelopes out in plain sight. If you’re a student, of course you’re in debt! How can you not be? Everyone gets it and no one will talk about it, assuming you’ve got it under control. Even millionaires have debt! It’s the American Way, after all!
3. No one talks about their family’s addiction problems until you’re already established in a relationship. And when you bring it up, guess what? The other person will offer their family’s skeletons in the closet too! No family is immune to problems. There is no perfect family.
4. Guys don’t care if a woman’s not already established or “successful”. They just don’t, in my experience. They want someone pretty, nice, stable and supportive who gives them happiness and no drama.
You’re not as bad as you think, and the guys out there aren’t as good as they’re projecting either.
Have Fun!
Inky
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