Hey Cyd,

I’m going through a similar situation like you are. Have you been in a relationship before? I’ve never been in a relationship…although I have had numerous crushes on people. Reading your story, and Matt’s response of course, I’ve realized that people have to remember to see others as individuals. Sometimes people don’t want to be in a relationship that has NOTHING to do with you. Maybe they got through a rought breakup or a divorce, someone died, or they just prefer the peace of being single without wasting their time, effort, and energy on a person. I’ll use myself as an example.

Since I was 19, I had a crush on a famous singer. I’ve told my friend about him so many times, I said to myself, “Why are you playing this record inside your head? He doesn’t know you exist, and you don’t know who he is without the fame, so it’s best to let go.” Believe me, it hasn’t been easy. The longest I went without anything related to this person was a month. But, luckily, I have a huge family, and events that happen everyday, so that should take my mind off of him. This isn’t the first time I had a crush on a singer. I also like another guy from another band (guess I have a thing for musicians) and it was easy to get over him because I was a teenager at the time.

Another guy I liked, we had a connection, but I started to get clingy, and he persisted that I take better care of myself because he’s not always online to chat.

Bottom Line: Don’t be overly clingy, but don’t be a stranger either. Just be yourself.