Dear Perry:
i wrote that she’s not even available to her current bf because you wrote: “she doesn’t even feel close to her bf. She said that ‘she couldn’t care less if her bf kisses another girl. She feels single’.

You also wrote: “she said…that we were both too depressed and mentally ill to work together well in a relationship.”

It amazes me to see it in someone else because there are things about my thinking that are so clear to somebody else, yet I am blind to those things. You wrote in this very post in so many words that:
1. She thinks of herself as mentally ill.
2. SHe thinks of you as mentally ill.
3. She doesn’t think the two of you, being mentally ill, could make a relationship work.
4. Her relationship with her bf is not close and is not working out (as a close relationship)

And yet, you think a relationship with her could have worked if only you confessed about your feelings earlier. Look at what you wrote: how could a relationship with her work?

It is my emotions, when I am too close to them, that blinded me to reality. Do you see it being your case here?
anita