Dear Courtney:
You wrote: “I don’t want to burn a bridge.” It is making me think as I type this, what does it mean to “burn a bridge”- a bridge is a place that makes it possible to move from one place to another place. So the one place to move from is where you are now and the other place to move to is having more with him, you didn’t expand on it but I assume you mean … to love and be loved in return, a commitment, him loving you completely and only you…? Maybe if you, not I- define where THERE is, where the bridge in your mind is leading to…?

And you are hoping that if you continue the interactions with him in the present context (the here) than he will fall in love with you and see you as The One? Are you hoping he will see in you what he is not seeing now?

So… you have a purpose, an agenda, how are you going to pursue it? Act in what ways?

Or maybe be authentic right now, share with him this very question you ask at the end of this post- tell HIM you are feeling conflicted, that you don’t know if you should accept him as a friend or cut him all together?

And while you are at it, how about asking (yourself and) him what being a friend with him will look like- oh, the great advances you can achieve by simply asking for information from him and from you.

This is what i came up with. What do you think?
anita