Hi Moongal,

It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed. So first, do something to calm yourself. Try breathing exercises, yoga, meditation, prayer–whatever works for you.

Then, look at these thoughts you are having. Look at the doubts you are having about yourself, and ask “Why do I think this?” After you answer that question, ask it again! Your mind is assuming something about you, that is leading to all of those doubts. It is looking for “evidence” to prove its assumption true. So see if you can figure out what those assumptions are, then ask yourself why they should be true.

Once you’ve looked at the assumptions, consider other possibilities. How can you redefine them?

Taking a good look at your self-talk can really provide a lot of insight.

Bethany
http://onlinetherapyandcoaching.org