Dear beckster5:

You concluded that your sister disapproves of you/ rejects you means that you are a terrible person.

It is possible that you are mistreating your sister and that she responds by criticizing you for trivial things, kind of not asserting herself with you about the real reasons, the … terrible things you do to her.

it is also possible that her way is that she dumps her negative emotions into you, feeling a temporary relief every time she points her finger at you. that gives her a relief from her regular pointing a finger at her self. Maybe she learned this behavior from a parent who did the same to you (the”black sheep” of the family?)

Maybe, maybe. How would I know… but I wouldn’t jump to the conclusion (as children do) that I am a terrible person. I will look into the evidence and entertain different possibilities. A conversation with her, if attempted or re-attempted honestly and assertively and with an open and courageous mind and heart may help in gathering evidence.

anita