I’m sorry to hear you have such a hard time in your job… Since we spend quite a big part of our day there, it’s important that we feel more or less good there – although it probably won’t be sunshine everyday..

I feel for your situation, i started my current job almost half a year ago – before that i hadn’t worked much for a while so i was very anxious to start this new job. And it took me a long time to feel a little bit at ease there, the first months i always wanted to leave there, it’s only quite recently that i’m starting to love the place and don’t want to leave.

I don’t know if i have advice for you. I guess, it’s up to you to feel if it is worth to stay. It doesn’t sound as if the work is very fulfilling, and the social atmosphere isn’t either.
For me, the work isn’t anything special (cleaning, while i think i would be able to do something more challenging than that), but now i realise, the atmosphere and the kindness is so good for me, that it helps me.

You started a month ago… it might be that your colleagues are used to having new employers and don’t tend to do much effort to welcome them, but just go on with their daily stuff with the people they already know and are familiar with. Perhaps it might take a bit more time to get used to you and to trust you. I don’t know if it would help to try to chat with them individually, so that they get to know you a bit more and see that you are a nice person. And following them to lunch… i don’t know how it goes at your place, but is it really following them, is it not normal that you sit and have lunch with your colleagues…? They might just have lost their reflex of doing some effort to make a new person feel welcome.
And one month is still quite short, do you think there will be a chance that you workload will inrease when you get more used to the place?

Sorry, i don’t mean to make your problem sound small, but from a few lines that i read on the internet, it is of course not possible to form an idea of how it is at your workplace – and my own experience is that these things can change. I also felt like crap for quite a while and now i am so grateful that i’m in such a wonderful place, with such a lovely colleagues – even though their organisation has a lot of room for improvement (to say it nicely), i feel there’s a lot of love there and there is actually some space for my own initiative and they don’t put any pressure on me. Only the one colleague that i have to work closely with, is a comletely not-fit for me, and i sometimes would like to quit the urge of being polite and take my lunchbreak at a different time, or just by myself.

I have no idea if it would be similar for you, but sometimes these things can change over time.

I guess it’s up to you to see what’s in there for you. Do you think there is any challenge in relation to the work, that might change when you are there a bit longer? Do you think it would be good for you to quit now, if the situation really isn’t right (do you usually quit quickly or just stay too long in hard situations?), or could it be rewarding to stay in a difficult situation and challenge yourself..?

Sorry i’m tired, so i’m writing too much and not sure if i’m getting my point across.

It might not hurt to have a look around at job openings in the meantime, and send an application if there is something you really like.

Anyway, good luck.