Hey there 🙂

I’ve been reading on alot of posts concerning the no contact rule..see I don’t have years of wisdom to impact to you…am only 19 but this is what I think concerning this no contact rule..

1.the first thing you need to ask yourself is why you want him back..make a list of those reasons and see which ones are genuine and not selfish…if that list includes reasons that suggest you want him back to validate you or for codependency purposes then I don’t think you should be taking this road..

2.i strongly believe that the right way of using the no contact rule is to focus on yourself..its all about healing yourself,its about giving yourself the time and space to recover from a breakup…and it doesn’t have to be 30days..it could be more…i believe that time should be for personal development

3.if you’re trying to use the no,contact rule to elicit a response from your boyfriend such as making him miss you or making him come back to you there are many things that could go wrong..for he could be back because he got lonely and not necessarily because of love and in the long run this turns out to be fatal…

I feel like the moment you make it a priority to get your ex back during the no contact you are torturing yourself mentally..you will find yourself wondering if he is missing you,if he is going to text you or what he is doing…which is not the point at all..the purpose of the no contact rule is to make you feel better about yourself and make you heal so that you will not be bothered by whether he responds to you or not if you do decide to initiate contact later….

while its possible that he may start to miss you during this time,please do not use it as your,primary reason..
use this time to improve yourself,to calm yourself so that you can think clearly and be able to reflect on your relationship and see if getting him back will really be healthy for you….

sometimes we are so focused on getting back someone and not letting go without really taking,the time to think of why we want this person so much….
so I hope that you use this time for you…

best wishes