Hi Nidzo,

Cultural pressure is unbelievably strong. This is why the parents force confirmation and arranged marriages at such a young age. You are at your weakest as a youth.

OK… NOW that he’s married, NOW you’d go back in time and marry him? No offence, but it’s easier for you to say that than for him to actually go through the divorce process. And “to be financially strong” could take years. And guess what? Something that could take years becomes “Some Day” in one’s mind. And during that time, his wife could become pregnant. And yes, by him.

I’m telling you NOT to see him while he’s married and NOT to put your life on hold.

One day, years later, he may indeed be free. And one day, years later, he could be a married man with kids (and has a nice home, job, and, yes, wife).

I’m sorry I’m such a Debbie-Downer, but please live a full life without him UNLESS and UNTIL he sets himself free.

Best,

Inky

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