Dear mallory:

i think I did not pay attention the first time to what you wrote. You wrote that you love him. WHy did I accept it as true? People say this kind of things. The word LOVE must be the most miscommunicated word in the world. You wrote that you are devoted to him- devoted to something or to someone else, but I doubt it is devotion to him. You wrote that your potential happiness is with the other man, meaning you are not happy with your husband… and wait (says I to I) the title of the post: “”married the wrong person”- what I ignored the most in my first comment to you. I am re-writing your post in my efforts to understand your predicament:

My husband isn’t the one i should have chosen. I don’t know why I chose him over the other guy that I think was a good match for me. I felt guilty about not choosing my husband, so I chose him and I am unhappy with my choice. I don’t like my husband but feel guilty about leaving him. He needs me so much and I am afraid I will hurt him too much if I leave him, just like I was afraid I will hurt him too much if I don’t choose him. The other guy, well, we were a great match, but he didn’t need me as much, so I felt he will be okay without me. So I didn’t choose him.

What do you think? ANy closeness to reality here?

anita