Dear confusedandsuspicious:

I wasn’t able to follow the computer details as I am not experienced with such. Here is a possibility for what is going on, and it is only a possibility. It may have some real truth in it and it is for you to consider:

You are micromanaging P’s life as well as your children’s lives. You are over- controlling and overbearing. You get into their business way too much and they feel suffocated. In that suffocation, P doesn’t feel too much romance and attraction to you. He appreciates you as a mother and other attributes but feel like he has to live with the micromanagement and does his best with it.

You treat P like he was a child caught in a lie and needs to be reprimanded.

If any of this is true, I would recommend extricating yourself from the busy-body mother role with P, letting him BE and doing the same with your children. I hope for greater adult-adult communication between you and P.

anita