Dear TheDaydreamer:

It doesn’t sit well with me, this relationship he has with the other woman while you are his girlfriend. I would tell him that I am not okay with it, and tell him that unless there is a real, self motivated change in his mind (unlikely)- that you are not interested in continuing the relationship with him. I would want him to not be interested in a continuance of a relationship with her, not in him cutting off contacts with her unwillingly, under pressure.

I don’t see how you can go on in this relationship knowing what you know as if it is not there. The reward comment is unexcusable, simply unacceptable in my mind, a stop sign in my view.

anita