I am dealing with this same heartache right now. What I thought was my soulmate and I broke up because I tend to trigger self awareness with people. We both realized she has not dealt with her past. We called it off a week ago and I honestly have not felt this level of sadness in some time. She needs to work on her for her. Not for me. I am proud of the text she sent about if I should wait for her. She said that if I am waiting for her then it brings me into the equation and she is not doing it for her. So proud. Thats the correct response. HOWEVER, MY HEART STILL HURTS! But I am taking this time to work on myself. I am getting closer in my walk of faith something that I have let go by the way side and I am not waiting for her. I am healing through this with the plan that she is not coming back. If she does, I am going to marry her. I love her that much and she is my red string. But if she does not come back to me, I am not in a worse place. My advice to you is that you accept this for whatever it is you need in life right now. A break, self growth, getting closer to family or what ever God you ascribe to. I feel your pain and I am with you. I hurt also. I am going to grow from this.