Hi Kate, I’m not really sure I can offer you much advise but what I can say is that I am in exactly the same position. In fact you were much more sensible than me, you gave your self some space to breath and met someone 7 months later, I met someone in 1 month and it’s now only been 4 months since me and my ex split (we were together for 3 years). But I know what you mean, this new person is lovely, many things that my ex started to loose during the time we were together. But it’s not the same. It doesn’t quite hold the same excitement. That rush.

I think Anita is right in the sense that you should not compare. I long for that bubbling exciting love again but I have to be open to the fact that this could blossom into a new different but equally beautiful love. I still hold on to this strange hope that me and my ex will meet again, in some freak coincidence and cosmos will correct everything but I’m starting to learn that’s not the right attitude. I also understand the impatient frustration of just wanting to let it go, being tired of him entering your head everyday and more than anything just wanting to be able to freely think of this new person in a loving romantic way without having those persistent thoughts loom over you. All we can do, like many have advised, is give it time… I hope you find some comfort in knowing that there are people just like you, trying to figure out the same things.