Dear Phoebe
.. and Jack, regarding empathy for the abuser: can you imagine, in nature, the prey animal feeling empathy for the predator? … In recent news, prey no longer run for their lives for fear running away may hurt the predators’ feelings. Or, prey deciding not to fight for their lives for fear the aggression in the fighting will hurt the predator’s feeling?

Phoebe, regarding your sister: she obviously is aware of the POWER she affected over you, letting you know she will not be upset if you don’t invite her. She wouldn’t have mentioned that if she didn’t think that her being upset will have a powerful affect on you. So she knows.

The question is: will she be upset or not if you don’t invite her? Maybe better ask another question: can YOU not .. care whether your sister is upset or not?

That would be perfect: take her unrighteous power away from her.

anita