Dear flyby:

With the little understanding I have of your situation with this guy, it seems to me that it is a shame you spent so much time trying to motivate him to want to be your boyfriend and it is a shame you experienced so much pain in relationship with him. You write that he is practicing detachment, not caring. But it is you that has cared all along, isn’t it? Maybe you can do the zen thing and detach from him? And stay detached, regardless of his future efforts to contact you?

anita