Dear strider:

Whatever you think and whatever you feel is okay- you honor yourself by expressing your thoughts, preferances and feelings here and elsewhere. What you do matters, and judgment should be made only on what you choose to do, what your actions are. Feelings for that girl in the office just happen, nothing to frown about in my opinion. I like what you did here, turning to your wife and not toward the ex co-worker. Telling your wife how you feel, wanting alone time- it is for your benefit and for HER benefit that you are honest with her about your feelings.

anita