Dear Anita.

I reread your post for a third time as you suggested. I must say I did not get anything more out of it. I really do understand (or at least I think I do) what you are trying to say.

If I understand you correctly you are saying I might just be a release valve of sort. A reminder for her what is outside of her relationship. Her current relationship problems (if there really are any. She might not like to talk about her relationship to other people in general) might stem from any issues se might have and not from here bf. As long as there is no commitement everything is fun and games but if I start to demand a certain level of commitment she might back away because she might feel a relationship with anyone is not right for here at this time even if her current bf might be out of the game. I am fun, we share some interests, we are casual.

I also understand the attachment part. I have been in the same boat, meaning in a crappy relationship but I did not het out because I was afraid I would stay alone forever. She might have different issues that keep her in her relationship. Maybe her relationship in reality is wonderful but she is promiscous. All of this is possible and so I do not want to jump the gun by confessing my feelings.

I thought my post would answer your posts indirectly but I guess I was not clear enough. 🙂

If I am still missing any points please do elaborate more.

Thank you.
Matic