ET: Did you do it the way I showed you? You didn’t did you?
Jack: I will not answer you when you use this disrespectful tone. I am not a child and if I was I would expect better.
Internal critic (healthy): Jack, you did well. You stood up for yourself. you were assertive and I am proud of you!)
ET (one worst case scenario): You don’t like the way I talk to you? (raising voice)- well, you can quit!
Jack: Or you can change the way you talk to me. Lower your voice for one.
Internal Critic: You are doing well, jack. You are consistently standing up for yourself. You are courageous. You are choosing to…take the risk of standing up for yourself and insisting on being respected. I am so proud of you!
ET: (shouting) Now hurry up and do it the way I showed you!
Jack: F*(*^ you (leaves)

that is sensational anita
thanks so much especially the “or you can change the way you talk to me” line