* intuitivemind: I find your post very interesting and would like to experiment here with a different take on what you wrote here: “Andrew”, with your husband, a different take on “I KNEW something was missing in my life: PASSION. That feeling of emptiness surfaced countless times throughout my marriage and was a big source of my problem.”

And here: “There was a reason why he came into your life – it was to remind you what your soul desires. It is also telling you that you deserve passion in your life!” in the context of your whole story above. This take is a possibility, not a certainty, of course. It is POSSIBLE that…

Your husband was not only KIND but also very passive. When you told him after 25 years of marriage and three children that you did not have passion for him throughout those 25 years, he understood, accepted it passively. You wrote that you are blessed (that he accepted it passively)- but this is exactly the opposite of blessing for you. You needed passion, his passion throughout the 25 years so you were not blessed that he was passive (and therefore reacted passively to the ending of the marriage).

The passion you were missing in those 25 years was LOVE from him, caring, a personal kind of caring. He was kind but that wasn’t love. You need a personal kind of … kindness, kindness delivered with emotion, with ENERGY-IN-MOTION. With your husband there was STATIC kindness, in place, not moving kindness. The hug with Andrew, that rush was that MOTION you needed all along.

anita