Dear Libby:

From your previous posts and this one, it seems to me that you are keeping yourself in a very unfortunate situation, a situation you can stay out of, if you so choose and if you follow up on such a choice. That unfortunate situation is your relationship with your mother. By staying in contact with her and repeatedly REACHING OUT to her, you are in effect INVITING rejection into your life and the lives of your children. You are in effect placing your mother as a higher priority, higher than the mental welfare of yourself, your husband and most importantly, your children’s.

I will state it again: when you choose to have a relationship with your mother, inviting her into your life and into your children’s lives, you are CHOOSING to remain mentally sick and you are choosing mental sickness for your children.

Let her go.

No matter how badly it will feel to cut her out of her life, endure that, overall it will be a good thing for you and for your children. You owe it to them.

anita