Hi Atlas Thinks,

Of course you know that she’s not angry at **YOU**. She is angry that (even a decade plus later) that her parents are no longer together. That her dad SEEMS to treat you like a queen/better than he treated her mom, that she forgets her mom may very well have stayed home with her too, OR she’s resentful that her sibling got the perfect SAHM. So what if you were a “tennis mom”/soccer mom? (what we call SAHMs with older kids). You keep the household running and take care of your child and her dad! listen, my mom was a SAHM, worked part time OR had her own business at various points when I was growing up and apologized for none of it!

I know she’s an adult, but she is not grown. Her rant was the grief of a child. I said shocking things to my step father even as a late teen, and he was a perfectly lovely person.

I say perfect your role. How would you treat a college aged daughter? With my own flesh and blood daughter I text, call, FB and send a care package. When she comes home I say, “OK! Let’s go shopping at Stew Leonard’s!” (a tradition). For her birthday and Christmas I buy her presents. And if she is/says something bad to me, I say, “I don’t like that!” and leave the room.

If I had a sister in law I might remember her birthday and give her a call and invite them over for holidays. That’s it!

They may very well have Aspergers. It is a gift, really. You CAN’T take it personally. For my nephew I give him books and am thinking of getting him a privacy tent so he can go into his “cave” wherever he is! LOL

Best,

Inky

• This reply was modified 9 years ago by Inky.
• This reply was modified 9 years ago by Inky.