Hi anita,
It’s not a secret, it’s simply our personal relationship as married people.
In the same way we would not share certain details of our marriage, such as love making, or perhaps a disagreement, with our children, we won’t be sharing these even more personal details with our children. We’ve always parented in a supportive, coaching role, not as our children’s “friends”; so there are topics we choose not to share with them to preserve those roles. The reasons leading to our divorce would cause discord, possibly judgment, and we don’t want the children compelled to choose sides. It’s the end of marriage, which is painful enough; not the end of being mom and dad.
Treen